Anxiety: A Weight to Bear

In Jiu-Jitsu, when faced with challenges like having your guard passed or being put in a chokehold, you're compelled to confront your discomfort head-on. Anxiety mirrors this experience; it forces you to acknowledge the uncomfortable situations you find yourself in. Whether you're dealing with a panic attack or struggling to cut weight, the reality is that these feelings will eventually dissipate. They may feel overwhelming in the moment, but they are transient.

Tough love alert: Regardless of the challenges you face, it's essential to recognize that they are temporary.

Lifelong Fulfillment: A Balancing Act

When I say that Jiu-Jitsu consumed my life from ages 18 to 22, many people struggle to comprehend the extent of my commitment. Every aspect of my life was geared toward becoming a better grappler; my choices were dictated by this singular focus. I selected my college based on training opportunities and chose a major that would allow me to spend as much time on the mat as possible. Despite this dedication, I felt a profound sense of incompleteness.

It wasn't until I began writing alongside my training that I discovered a sense of balance. Engaging in both pursuits allowed me to satisfy my intellectual and physical needs, leading to a newfound sense of wholeness. I realized that to truly thrive, I needed to diversify my experiences beyond just one passion.

Relationships: The Importance of Connection

Not every Jiu-Jitsu instructor resonated with me. Some were too intense, while others lacked the expertise I needed. Finding a mentor who was not only skilled but also a good fit for my personality proved challenging. Fortunately, I found Jeff, who has a wealth of experience and a genuine approach to teaching. A positive relationship with a coach can significantly influence your motivation and success. This principle applies universally to all interpersonal connections.

Happiness in the Process, Not the Outcome

During my early days in Jiu-Jitsu, I felt immense pressure to excel, driven by my wrestling background and the need to prove myself. This mindset led to performance anxiety and diminished enjoyment of the sport. Eventually, I learned that true happiness came from the process of training itself, rather than from accolades or victories. Releasing this pressure not only improved my well-being but also enhanced my performance in Jiu-Jitsu.

The Pursuit of Improvement

Training is relentless and exhausting. As I take my first vacation funded by my Jiu-Jitsu earnings, I grapple with mixed feelings about returning home. While I am eager to pursue new goals, I also recognize that I am never truly “finished” with my training. The sport demands continuous effort, and I am committed to finding ways to give back to the community that has shaped me.

The pursuit of perfection is futile, but the quest for improvement is always attainable.