The First Shift: Accepting the Hard Truth

The first and most challenging truth you need to confront is that your situationship didn't flourish because the other person simply didn't love you. You might have thought you shared something special, but the reality is they didn’t see a future worth pursuing.

When someone truly cares for you, they will do everything they can to keep you in their life. It may sting to hear this, but it's essential for your healing. You deserve a partner who is willing to commit, introduce you to their family, and plan a future together. Love is the baseline expectation in any relationship; don’t waste your time on someone who can’t even meet that standard.

The second video, "5 Mindset Shifts," provides insights into transforming your outlook on love and relationships.

Recognizing the Cowardice in Ghosting

When a situationship concludes, it often does so in a cowardly manner, with the other person disappearing without explanation. Ghosting is the easy route—they can block you on social media rather than face the difficult task of having a real conversation.

The truth is, you cannot build a meaningful commitment with someone who lacks the courage to communicate. The partner you choose to marry will significantly influence your life. If they treat you poorly now, how will they behave in the future?

The Illusion of a Perfect Relationship

One reason moving on from a situationship is difficult is because of the fantasies you create. Since the relationship never matured, you have the space to imagine a flawless partnership—complete with a house, children, and a blissful life.

However, the painful reality is that this ideal relationship never existed. Every relationship is imperfect and requires effort. Grieving over a fantasy only prolongs your suffering. Remember, a genuine relationship is always more rewarding than a perfect illusion.

The Trap of "What If"

Situationships can ensnare you in a cycle of "what ifs." You might find yourself pondering questions like, “What if I had done something differently?” But this line of thinking leads nowhere. There are no alternate realities where everything turned out perfectly.

Love often defies logic and explanation. If you stay trapped in this loop, all you’ll achieve is prolonged heartbreak. Instead, focus on the fact that if they truly wanted a relationship, they would have stayed.

Creating Your Own Closure

How did your situationship come to an end? More often than not, it lacks closure. The absence of a formal ending leaves you with lingering questions. However, you have the power to create your own closure.

Consider writing a letter to express your feelings (and then burn it), or have a final conversation with yourself in the mirror. While you may not receive all the answers, taking these steps can bring a sense of completion.

Situationships are undeniably tough, but you possess the strength to overcome them. By adopting these mindset shifts, you can gain clarity and finally move forward. Remember, your energy is precious. By investing it in those who don’t value you, you deplete your capacity for self-care.

It’s perfectly normal to feel hurt—rejection can feel like a physical blow. Allow yourself to grieve, but don’t linger in that space indefinitely. Once you are ready, rise up and continue your journey—not for others, but for yourself.