Chapter 1: The Illusion of Departure

The notion that a narcissist departs for good is a mere facade. Although you may feel unimportant or unnecessary to them at times, this is only temporary. A narcissist will invariably seek to reinsert themselves into your life, convincing you that you initiated the reconnection.

They often display immense arrogance, ensuring that their return feels like your doing. You might receive a call or a message out of the blue, or they may show up in places where they are likely to encounter you. In these moments, they will act as though you reached out first, twisting reality to fit their narrative.

A narcissist must project an image of independence, pretending to be self-sufficient while subtly implying that you are the one who requires them. In truth, they rely on you far more than they let on, which is why their exits are never permanent. Often, this behavior is a strategic move to elicit some form of emotional reaction from you. Despite their apparent departure, they remain nearby, always observing and waiting for the opportune moment to return.

Why is it that a narcissist never truly leaves?

This stems from their need for emotional supply. To a narcissist, you are not just a partner but an extension of themselves, a possession that exists solely to fulfill their needs. They see no boundary between themselves and you; thus, they feel entitled to your presence and emotional energy.

In the eyes of a narcissist, you cannot separate from them; you are part of their identity. This distorted perception justifies their harassment and manipulation, as they believe they possess the right to return to you at will. Even if it appears they have left dramatically, it's merely a matter of time before they show up again, often without any explanation or closure. When they return, they may even shift blame onto you, disregarding their own role in the cycle of rejection and absence.

The self-centered nature of a narcissist means their actions are driven by personal gain. They will say or do anything to fulfill their desires, often at your expense, viewing your suffering as collateral damage. This mindset is similar to a soldier in battle, where losses are expected. The narcissist doesn’t concern themselves with your well-being; rather, they may derive satisfaction from your pain and struggles.

Chapter 2: The Need for Emotional Supply

Narcissists don’t linger because they have affection for you; instead, you serve as their emotional oxygen. They rely on you for sustenance in their emotional life, a dynamic completely devoid of genuine love. The narcissist lacks an understanding of love, prioritizing their desires over any emotional bond.

You become akin to a gas station for the narcissist. Each time they feel depleted, they return to you for a "refill," only to seek other sources of supply once satisfied. Their inability to truly love or care for you is rooted in the fundamental way their minds operate.

Ultimately, you cannot depend on a narcissist to care for you; self-care becomes paramount in these dynamics.

The first video titled "Why narcissists think you will NEVER leave them" delves into the psychological reasoning behind their seemingly unending need for their partners, exposing the manipulative tactics they employ.

The second video, "People who CAN'T, WON'T, or DON'T leave narcissistic relationships," sheds light on the complexities of remaining in these toxic partnerships, providing insight into the emotional struggles faced by victims.