# Understanding the Three Types of Agreements You Can Make
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Chapter 1: The Nature of Agreements
In both my professional and personal experiences, I've observed that individuals frequently establish various commitments. These commitments can range from future meetings to tasks that need completion. However, it’s striking how often these agreements are not honored. Personally, I tend to adopt a more rational approach: when you schedule a meeting, it should be kept. If you’re not committed, then it’s best not to agree to it.
Naturally, I recognize that unforeseen circumstances can arise. Life is unpredictable, and sometimes things happen that prevent us from following through on our plans. Still, it’s intriguing to note how frequently people make commitments and subsequently fail to uphold them. Is there a discernible pattern?
Through my observations, I've identified three distinct types of agreements that people typically make: pure agreements, influenced agreements, and unfair agreements. Let’s delve into each type.
Section 1.1: Pure Agreements
A pure agreement is straightforward: you make a commitment and ensure you adhere to it. This clarity is beneficial for everyone involved. Upholding a pure agreement is often perceived as fair, fostering trust among peers. Individuals who consistently honor their commitments are regarded as reliable and are seen as leaders who drive their teams forward. These are the individuals known for being consistent and dependable, as they follow through on their promises.
Section 1.2: Influenced Agreements
There are times when circumstances beyond your control prevent you from keeping an appointment. In these cases, your intentions were genuine when you made the commitment. For instance, if you agree to visit someone at 10 AM and verify your travel plans, but a train cancellation occurs, resulting in a delay, this is considered an influenced agreement.
In such situations, it's crucial to communicate with the other party and explain your tardiness. However, if lateness becomes a pattern without valid reasons, that raises concerns about your commitment to the agreement.
Subsection 1.2.1: The Importance of Communication
Section 1.3: Unfair Agreements
An unfair agreement occurs when you make a commitment you don’t genuinely value. This is particularly unjust to the other party who may have set aside time in anticipation of your meeting. For example, you might run into an old friend at a gathering and suggest catching up soon, but in reality, you have no intention of following through. This can lead to disappointment for the other person, who may have been looking forward to the reunion.
Such unfair agreements are also prevalent in work settings. You might promise to complete a task, but internally, you know you won’t follow through. When someone inquires later, you might just claim you forgot. This is clearly unfair.
Chapter 2: Choosing Your Agreements
The agreements you make are ultimately a choice. While you might find yourself in situations where you don’t care about the commitment, you have the power to opt for pure agreements instead. It’s not always possible to control influenced agreements, but if you often find yourself making commitments you can’t keep, it’s worth examining whether you’re unintentionally making unfair agreements.
Personally, I strive for transparency in my commitments and find it frustrating when others engage in unfair agreements. What kind of agreements do you choose to make?
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