Understanding the Deceptive Nature of Narcissists and Their New Supply
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Chapter 1: The Illusion of the Narcissist's New Supply
Narcissists are known for concealing various aspects of their lives, including their new partners. You might be astonished by how many individuals are aware of your existence, even among those who seem oblivious.
They don’t just maintain one or two partners; instead, they often juggle several at once. This constant cycle is necessary for them because they realize that none of their connections are likely to endure. Even when they manage to keep someone around—like an individual who continuously returns for more mistreatment—they are never truly satisfied. Their strategy often involves having two or three primary partners on the hook, all while deceiving each one into believing that the others do not exist. They might claim, "We’re just friends!" and accuse you of being overly possessive. The question arises: why should you trust them?
Their behavior is deeply problematic.
At the core of their deceit lies a fundamental truth: they lack a sense of self. They often rely on others to serve as emotional punching bags, constantly reshaping their identities to attract unsuspecting victims until they can no longer maintain their facade.
They engage in psychological manipulation, projecting their own issues onto you, all while adopting the role of the victim. They thrive on garnering support from those around them, perpetuating a false narrative in which they play the hero. Their acting skills can be remarkably persuasive, allowing them to gather an audience that believes in their fabricated story.
The irony is that they present themselves as the victim, claiming they are simply trying to love someone who is "mentally unstable." They relish using your responses to their provocations to mask their own abusive behavior, leaving you in a state of confusion and self-doubt.
Their ability to use your reactions as a shield for their transgressions is remarkable, and those who surround them often remain oblivious until they discover the true nature of the narcissist. Unfortunately, it doesn’t take long for their real character to reveal itself.
Narcissists navigate life by keeping many secrets. They often hide behind a facade of social media accolades, family images, and false achievements—anything that can bolster an ego they refuse to confront.
Let them continue their charade. If you find yourself entangled with one of these individuals, your best option is to allow them to remain hidden long enough for you to break the cycle of trauma bonding. When they eventually resurface, you can confidently tell them, "No more!" and move forward to cultivate a life free from abuse, seeking relationships with those who genuinely care.