Understanding Indecision

I can't be alone in feeling overwhelmed by responsibilities and the pressure to make decisions lately. Don't misunderstand me; my mind is racing, sifting through options, weighing pros and cons, and fretting over every tiny detail (thanks, anxiety). But when it comes to making those choices? Not happening.

Consequently, I find myself feeling stuck—trapped in a loop and unsure how to escape. It’s akin to walking in a race to avoid fatigue, yet questioning why I finished last.

It dawned on me that by avoiding the significant decisions in my life, I'm hindering my progress towards the next chapter. I desperately want to move forward, but I'm the one holding myself back. Let me clarify...

A TikTok by Nicole, which I stumbled upon, truly shifted my perspective. She shared her experience of overthinking and searching for clarity regarding her own life decisions, only to realize that her indecisiveness was blocking the good things meant for her.

Honestly, I knew TikTok's algorithm was impressive, but did she really have to call me out like that?

Many of us are riding the "I have no idea what to do" train lately. With the world in chaos—housing crises, skyrocketing car prices, gas hitting $5 a gallon, wars raging abroad, and crises at home—how can we feel grounded as new adults? It was already tough before, and now it feels nearly impossible to discern right from wrong. How are we supposed to decide when everything seems to be falling apart?

Should I invest in a new car given this market, or hope my 2009 vehicle doesn't fail me on the highway?

Should I stick with my retail job that pays better or pursue the degree I spent tens of thousands on? (By the way, the retail gig pays significantly more. Talk about feeling cheated.)

Is it wise to continue living with my best friend and her family until I’m 30, or should I shell out $1500 a month for a tiny apartment?

Should I save for retirement by staying home and eating ramen, or should I seize the moment and create memories while I’m young?

The choices seem endless and likely won't get easier as we age. Nonetheless, they are decisions that must be made, or we risk stagnation.

During this phase of my life, where decisions seem to bombard me, I’ve developed a habit of avoidance. Ignoring these challenges keeps me comfortable; it’s easier to remain in the same spot than to confront choices. My overthinking traps me in a cycle of worry and contemplation without ever taking action, hoping for something to land in my lap.

I need to recognize that this cycle keeps me stuck in stress and uncertainty, preventing me from progressing and reaping the benefits.

A major obstacle in making decisions stems from a lack of trust in myself. I often doubt my capability to discern what's best for me.

Am I the only one who feels this way? I can advise others all day long, but when it comes to my own needs? I feel lost. I often find myself asking God for “signs” (admit it, we’ve all done it), but when I don’t receive one, I find myself frustrated with Him for not “guiding me.”

In truth, He granted us free will to make choices. We have the power to make those decisions, whether big or small. God might be watching from above, thinking, "This really isn’t that complicated; just take action." After all, nothing can derail His plan for us. The details that cause us anxiety mean little in the grand scheme of life. He isn’t concerned with whether we buy a new car or where we work. He can shape remarkable leaders from any circumstance, including those in prison. It’s irrelevant where we find ourselves; what matters is that His plan for us will unfold, regardless of our attempts to derail it.

Even if you're not religious, the same principle applies. The decisions we make—no matter how monumental they seem at the time—will lead to one of two outcomes: either something wonderful or something disappointing. If it’s the latter, we can always choose the alternate route. What is meant to be will happen, so what’s the worst that could transpire? A mistake? That’s a common experience. When we look back at life in our nineties, these worries will appear trivial. (I realize how cliché that sounds, but it’s undeniably true.)

Our indecision merely RESISTS our progress.

Consider this: What if we chose to stay home every day because we couldn't decide what pants to wear? We would miss out on life while fixating on something so trivial. How absurd does that sound? Don't let decisions keep you cooped up. Get dressed and take action.

The small things are blocking my path to the next chapter, the next blessing, the next big opportunity.

I hope this message reaches anyone grappling with life decisions and resonates with them as much as it did with me. Personally, I’m committed to breaking free from this rut of indecision and moving towards my next significant milestone. I’m ready for what’s next, and I refuse to let insecurity and fear of failure hold me back any longer.

Failure is part of the journey. We live, learn, and try again. What I WON'T do is remain stagnant any longer.

So, if I stumble, please don’t laugh at me. At least I’ll be moving forward once more.

A special thanks to @realnicolefaith on TikTok for sharing her breakthrough! The algorithm truly knew what I needed! ❤️

Follow me on Twitter @halenbbreaksdwn and on TikTok @halenbrooke16—though I haven’t ventured into TikTok yet, maybe after this blog I’ll muster the courage to do so!

Chapter 2: Insights from the Experts

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